Most times in communication today, we readily mistake the word “myself”. Many of us interchangeably use “myself” with “me” not knowing the difference between “me” and “myself” as well as the various situations you can rightly use them. In this guide, we are going to learn how separately the word “myself” and “me” can be used.

People commonly mistake the “myself” when referring to themselves in sentences. Let us try to see an example first.

“Hi Brian, kindly reach out to Ben, Avar, or myself if you have difficulty in getting to the office.”

Now watch out for the “myself” in the sentence. Is it right? Should it be myself or me in that position?

Here, we have to carefully break down that sentence. Imagine Ben and Avar were absent from the statement, would you say “Hi Brian, kindly reach out to myself if you have difficulty in getting to the office”? No. What you would rather say is “Hi Brian, kindly reach out to me if you have difficulty in getting to the office.” Therefore it is pretty clear now. The fact that Ben and Avar come into the statement doesn’t change anything. It is still “Hi Brian, kindly reach out to Ben, Avar, or me if you have difficulty in getting to the office.” Was that understood?

Let us go further a bit. Myself is classified as a reflexive pronoun. That could seem big to keep in memory. Let us approach it in much simpler terms. Good, now you are in front of a mirror and you are seeing yourself in the mirror. You would say “I am looking at myself in the mirror.” What you are particularly seeing in the mirror is your reflection. That is the same way the reflexive person pronoun works, it refers back to you. There are other common reflexive pronouns like themselves, itself, herself, yourself etc.

One big rule is that the reflexive pronoun must never be used as the subject of the sentence, it always plays the role of the object. We have already examined the position of the subject and the object. Something like: James likes Bridget. James is the subject, he is one doing the action “likes”. Here Bridget is the object, she is receiving the action “likes”. So you can never say “myself likes Bridget”. Same way it will be wrong to say “Avar and myself like Bridget.” The best place the “myself” comes in is when you are both the subject and the object that is you are the one doing the action and equally the one receiving the action. Something like “I see myself joining the basketball team.”

So that is it. Now you can identify when you can properly use myself or me. English learning is a process, little things add up to big things and you are generally improving.